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"I just have to say, what you did back there in that by Irish Tool

bathroom was amazing." - a middle aged man in the concourse of an Ohio Turnpike rest stop, to yours truly in 2017.

Changing stations in men's rooms are very important. They are one of the myriad ways we need to change the perception that many aspects of parenting should be relegated only to women. This is critical in a society where dual working hetero parent households are common, because those perceptions create significant problems for both parents' careers.

I actually had a 40 year old senior associate attorney tell me in 2019 that new father attorneys are not supposed to take any time off. The changing rooms are absolutely a factor in that mindset.


On a practical level for road tripping as a family, it's more efficient for the dad to change diapers when there is nursing involved. Broken down as a Gannt chart, there are two things mom can do that dad can't (namely, empty her bladder and nurse the baby), and those two things become the limiting factor in pit stop timing. So the efficient procedure is for dad to change baby, hand off baby, then take a piss and fill up the gas tank while baby nurses.