And while I reject the position taken by Irish Tool, and all his works, and all his paternity leave, having a changing table in the men's room is, simply on a practical level, sometimes very handy. I simply refuse to get exercised on this point, or to let my personal preferences increase the time a precontinent child spends in a messy diaper. Sometimes that just falls under the heading of "men do what needs doing."

with a changing table. There I can take in a kid in diapers and an older kid and not worry about upsetting the snowflakes who can't pee when a kid is in the bathroom.

The alternative of changing my kid in public or on the floor of a men's restroom is not good for anyone.

Problem solved.

Wafting.

I just think it’s nice to have the changing table in the ladies room so I can have that excuse handy if I prefer my wife to do it at the time.

Times in the taliban.

There is no way i could have done that, diapers or no diapers.

technology.

bathroom was amazing." - a middle aged man in the concourse of an Ohio Turnpike rest stop, to yours truly in 2017.

Changing stations in men's rooms are very important. They are one of the myriad ways we need to change the perception that many aspects of parenting should be relegated only to women. This is critical in a society where dual working hetero parent households are common, because those perceptions create significant problems for both parents' careers.

I actually had a 40 year old senior associate attorney tell me in 2019 that new father attorneys are not supposed to take any time off. The changing rooms are absolutely a factor in that mindset.


On a practical level for road tripping as a family, it's more efficient for the dad to change diapers when there is nursing involved. Broken down as a Gannt chart, there are two things mom can do that dad can't (namely, empty her bladder and nurse the baby), and those two things become the limiting factor in pit stop timing. So the efficient procedure is for dad to change baby, hand off baby, then take a piss and fill up the gas tank while baby nurses.

I took a day off per kid. Now, I live 5 miles from my office. And I went home often. But I sure as shit didn't take paternity leave for two months.

company I worked for and it was a consulting company. There was/is no concept of vacation. You just take whatever time you want off as long as it doesn't adversely affect a project and you in effect give yourself a pay cut by losing money tied to your billable hours.

I surrendered one billable day per week for 78 weeks. However, I also was out of town the other 4 days per week, so home zero hours per day those other days.

Those little fuckers are expensive as shit.

Sanity

And used my 10 weeks of accrued sick leave plus two weeks of vacation.

Second kid was a small firm, I asked to take a couple weeks off unpaid and they said they'd rather have me work part time for that couple weeks and don't worry about a specific number, then at the subsequent annual review they criticized my hours for that month.

Third kid was mid-size firm and I took 2 days off, mixed in the remainder of my 80 hours over the next couple months and my work from the older partner dried up while I ran myself on the verge of exhaustion for the two months after the baby was born. Told them in my exit interview that paternity leave needs revamping.

If I got 12 weeks I'd take it. I can see going back at 3 or 4 weeks in specific situations, but that's heavily dependent on the wife's situation and family support on hand. Edit: but even so, hugely disparate male/female leave policies creates a lot of bias against mom employees from all levels of the organization. And that harken back to my point about perceptions.

I took a day or two. I wanted to build something so that when the kids were older I had the free time. I also didn't take a honeymoon, though to be fair I was married in a different state and took 3 days off to travel there.

Now I work mostly from home and only go in for about 10 hours a week and have a ton of free time for my teenagers and wife

I was leaving for career advancement afterward. It was an accrued benefit and I cashed it.

Actually, just 14. I'm banking the last 2 weeks for the spring.

I'm a guy.

wives to do everything.

She didn’t guilt me into sitting around in my sweatpants for 2.5 months.

I bet you quit drinking during her pregnancy too. Out of solidarity.

It is not a two person job. The entire world knows. Unless your wife went back to work.

This isn't one of them.

You need to find a fishing app for your phone; it has to be more fun than this.

Did you loudly harrumph and roll your eyes as you walked past that Dad performing his fatherly duty of doing one goddamned thing for his wife.


Also, my wife is not better at changing diapers. She's far too concerned with being gentle. I'm a goddamn machine. And anyone who wants to look at me crossways as I change my kids diaper can get fucked.

By the time your kid gets to HS this is how all their friends are going to view you:

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You're seriously at a loss in the family skills dept.

First CostCo. Now changing stations. What's next?

Built on persuading skinflints they really arent at Sams

If you are going to pretend to be all 1950s manly, at least be consistent.

Well, he does.

without his mother. I was grateful that Chick Fil-A had a changing station in the mens room.

But have you never ventured out in public on your own with a child in diapers? What do you do if the kid craps while you're out? Make him sit in it? Go back home to change him? Lay him on a disgusting ass bathroom floor? Lay him out on leather seats in your Audi (I hope you got shit brown)?

And if your wife is "just better at it" than you are, you're either stupid or physically inept. It's really fucking easy to change a diaper. Feigning ineptitude to get out of taking care of your own kid isn't very manly.