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I've heard it as guilt vs shame by czeche
It's actually a meaningful distinction.
Guilt is: I *did* something bad. Shame is: *I* did something bad.
The point being that guilt is more a reaction to the action, and lends itself to correction, whereas shame is a conclusion about oneself which is much harder to overcome.
So, yes, I do agree that guilt is useful, and by extension I think your point is that we encourage people to feel no guilt about things they are doing that are wrong, in many ways, and I agree that it's inappropriate. If someone is overweight, they should not feel like they are a worthless person but they should feel like "there are better choices. " incidentally, I'm in this boat and that's the way I've come to start making better choices.