I've heard it as guilt vs shame
by czeche (2024-03-05 04:12:28)

In reply to: what do you call that feeling you felt as a kid  posted by airborneirish

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It's actually a meaningful distinction.

Guilt is: I *did* something bad. Shame is: *I* did something bad.

The point being that guilt is more a reaction to the action, and lends itself to correction, whereas shame is a conclusion about oneself which is much harder to overcome.

So, yes, I do agree that guilt is useful, and by extension I think your point is that we encourage people to feel no guilt about things they are doing that are wrong, in many ways, and I agree that it's inappropriate. If someone is overweight, they should not feel like they are a worthless person but they should feel like "there are better choices. " incidentally, I'm in this boat and that's the way I've come to start making better choices.

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