has a troubled son, around 10 now. He's been aggressive towards his younger sister and his mom on occasion. Says some pretty awful things, expresses some fairly violent imagery. Says sometimes that he wants to kill people. What kinds of toys does her -ex buy him? In addition to other things, guns. Toy ones, yes, but still guns. My point being, sometimes parents are blinded by what their kids are capable of and what demons haunt them. Wishful thinking maybe, "my kid isn't really all that bad"? Who knows what any of them were thinking, or if they were thinking at all.